(This is a sequel to Pits & Mountains, so read that first!)
If you have a pit mindset and your life is okay, you are probably going to have a very hard time developing close relationships with people who have a mountain mindset.
If you have a mountain mindset, a “good” relationship of any kind is a foundation to build upon. You want to progress it and improve it. You want to deepen your connection or improve how you interact. No matter what kind of relationship it is – working, familial, romantic – you see the opportunity for a stronger bond that comes from putting in the intentional effort.
Pit mindset people don’t see the need – or they see the potential as too fraught with peril to attempt. Why do something that might mess up what you already have?
If both people have pit mindsets, that might work fine. But someone with a mountain mindset is going to be dissatisfied or even frustrated by the other person’s lack of effort and investment.
No way is inherently right – do what works for you and your relationship. But if you’re seeing it strain, ask yourself if your methods of travel are mismatched!
The Opportunity Machine 