I have never complained about something out loud and had a positive result.
Sure, “the squeaky wheel gets the grease.” But there are better ways to ask than to just complain and hope somebody both correctly interprets your needs and feels magnanimous enough to make your problem into theirs.
And yes, you should talk about your feelings and worries! But you should do so with trusted friends, loved ones, or professionals. You shouldn’t just broadcast it to the public.
Why not? Because negativity invites more negativity. Pain competitions, disapproval, unkind mockery – these are all the demons you open the door for. I don’t feel like dealing with that, do you?
I’m not saying bottle it up! I’m just saying to mind your context. Grousing never helped anyone.
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