My father had a saying he employed whenever I was looking for something and failed to find it, despite it being right under my nose or otherwise obvious: “If it was a snake, it would’ve bit ya.”
My father had a lot of sayings.
This is a good one; it’s apt and funny without being mean. I use it with my own kids and it gets a laugh (or at least a smiling eye-roll).
We are shaped and we shape. Everything from enormous values and culture to the tiny little jokes we make. We look for these things, but they’re right in front of us.