25 is coming back to your parents, hat in hand, to say “It’s harder than I thought,” and finally truly asking for advice.
30 is admitting that even happened, and dropping the false story you told yourself that it was for some other reason, not because your parents had wisdom to give that you needed.
40 is understanding that wasn’t shameful, it was wonderful. Not everyone has those parents to go back to.
The Opportunity Machine 