The connection people want isn’t always the connection you want to give. Quality time, affection, intimacy – these mean different things to different people. Even people you care deeply about.
It’s fine to use your words to explain how you show and experience these things. But don’t let your explanation be the end of the conversation; make it the beginning. Sometimes you’ll need to be uncomfortable to make someone you care about comfortable. That’s what loving people is. Taking care of them when they need it.
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